tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post3190533415722470888..comments2023-12-26T05:04:49.016-05:00Comments on Shark Girl BJJ: The Outing of Shark GirlShark Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00614995646635993850noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-38736675464205774622011-01-29T22:32:37.305-05:002011-01-29T22:32:37.305-05:00Never saw that post from Meg, Julia. Phenomenal.Never saw that post from Meg, Julia. Phenomenal.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13229873505463921052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-13250404467911475172011-01-12T01:15:49.800-05:002011-01-12T01:15:49.800-05:00@SharkGirl I also teach ESL teachers how to teach ...@SharkGirl I also teach ESL teachers how to teach writing. In it I say that the job of a western writer is to show your point of view. If someone else has to fill in the blanks from their perspective, you haven't done a good job writing. I try to be very clear with my writing and if I felt like something COULD be misinterpreted I would probably put some sort of "warning" with it, something like:<br /><br />"I have some strong opinions about this subject, but please do not interpret my passion for anger."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-71512983965941894372011-01-12T01:12:38.360-05:002011-01-12T01:12:38.360-05:00@Shark Girl Nope, no misinterpretations yet that I...@Shark Girl Nope, no misinterpretations yet that I'm aware of. My very favorite person for handling misinterpretations and negativity is Meg of Megjitsu. <br /><br />One anonymous troll wrote on her blog that she was ugly and she responded with:<br /><br /><i>So I've been told, Anon, so I've been told. You should see me first thing in the morning, appalling! Happily, I make no claim to beauty and strive to be a courageous, capable, genuine and loving woman. Lucky, too, that while I fall short, a good gi serves me well, regardless :) Apologies, brother, but I'll have to delete your comment in a day or two; your earthy language is lowering the tone. Thanks for reading! </i><br /><br />She is a true inspiration.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-49799908118487307222011-01-07T23:15:27.367-05:002011-01-07T23:15:27.367-05:00@Everyone: Thanks for the great advice. And thanks...@Everyone: Thanks for the great advice. And thanks for reading!<br /><br />What about perspective...I haven't yet had an experience that I would want to write up real negatively. However, people can take things in unexpected ways. Has anyone ever misinterpreted one of your posts and taken it in a way you didn't mean?Shark Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00614995646635993850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-70130432996530151172011-01-06T09:25:53.993-05:002011-01-06T09:25:53.993-05:00I try to write positive things. I try to imagine s...I try to write positive things. I try to imagine someone from class is reading all the time. It helps me. Otherwise--that's what super secret forums are for!<br /><br />I will often just have nicknames for people, though Fringe told me it was okay to use her real name--I'd asked if I could use her picture and she said sure. <br /><br />Sometimes I'll just use their initial, and sometimes I'll use their first name.<br /><br />Overall I just try to be respectful. Except about the meathead who cranked my neck after saying "I'm not gonna roll with you differently because you're a woman."<br /><br />I am happy to be public because I feel like there aren't so many women in BJJ, so I'd like to have my experiences be real and solid for people. I want to say "Hey--I know how you're feeling--check out my blog."<br /><br />Actually, last month having a public blog did me a favor--I didn't have enough money to pay for December, and an unknown teammate said "Hey, I talked to the instructor and you can pay whenever you can."<br /><br />I think I've only once met a teammate's girlfriend--and I would also ask if they trained and then invite them out!<br /><br />Glad to have met your blog, Shark Girl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-50946544458254470492011-01-06T02:03:20.051-05:002011-01-06T02:03:20.051-05:00I write as myself and have patches/gis with my blo...I write as myself and have patches/gis with my blog on them, and I know a number of peeps I train with read my blog, including my instructors, some refs, and many of my competitors :\<br /><br />I usually write only nice things about specific named individuals or people who I describe so well that they might be identifiable. I DO write about the negative experiences as well but try hard to make them anonymous. Hope that helps? :)Georgettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08705282002904234217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-73991136344082278472011-01-01T21:05:33.246-05:002011-01-01T21:05:33.246-05:00I give minors nicknames. I use adults' first ...I give minors nicknames. I use adults' first names only, unless said adult is in "the biz of BJJ". Then I give them props (free advertisement) so to speak. I use their whole name and I link it to their website. Say for instance my instructors, professional fighters and such. One of my training partners is Adam Villarreal, he writes for Tapout Magazine, and has an ESPN radio show. I think I'm doing them a kindness by providing fee advertisment.<br /> I'm fortunate to train with a bunch of really nice guys. However, on saying bad things. My grandmother said, "If you can't say anything nice about someone, it's best not to say anything at all." So I TRY really hard to find nice things to say. Then there are those days when I can't... So I make a funny. Then there are other times when I shoot an email to someone like Leslie and hash said incident out in private.<br /><br />@ Leslie - I like your idea about the more than one nickname per person. I'm so steeling that one.<br /><br />@ Dagney - Nice tip on dealing with significant others. They make me uncomfortable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-62238105497849569272010-12-28T15:12:30.838-05:002010-12-28T15:12:30.838-05:00I dunno -- one good frilly underwear post, and you...I dunno -- one good frilly underwear post, and your husband may stop pointing people to your blog. :P<br /><br />I've only had 2 classmates tell me they read my blog (one has since moved away), though I suspect one or two others do as well (because they sometimes make comments that follow something I wrote recently). However, I generally forget about that and write anyway.<br /><br />If I have negative things to say, I usually do as you do with "SMEWB" -- give them a descriptive name or even just "another guy" or "someone else" (that is, no description at all). And these have been successful -- one of the guys who does read my blog couldn't figure out some of them. (Hint: give common training partners more than one name.) Unless someone was there, they should have a hard time figuring it out. In some cases, I just say that I rolled with someone and leave it at that; that usually means there was lots I would say, but none of it is very nice.lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05603807319832815566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-44334583671192333432010-12-28T13:06:50.700-05:002010-12-28T13:06:50.700-05:00I often refer to people by name, and a good propor...I often refer to people by name, and a good proportion of my regular training partners know that I write up all my classes. Although I always go by slideyfoot on the net, my real name (Can) isn't hard to find, as I put it on my <a href="http://www.slideyfoot.com/search/label/Can%20S%C3%B6nmez" rel="nofollow">articles</a> and in the copyright notices.<br /><br />However, I also make an effort to maintain a neutral tone on the internet as much as possible. I think it makes sense to try and be diplomatic, as stuff you say on the internet tends to be difficult to erase. ;)slideyfoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05374174757753962274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995732225051832071.post-86075275604863376842010-12-28T04:33:11.745-05:002010-12-28T04:33:11.745-05:00Well, I am part anonymous, Dagney is not my real n...Well, I am part anonymous, Dagney is not my real name. I use first names of my classmates, no last names. A few people in class know about my blog, but not everyone. <br /><br />As for awkwardness when meeting a classmates wife, break that ice with a warm handshake and the question, "Do you train?" Yes? Cool! We should train sometime. No? Give it a try! It would be great to have another woman in class. I always go out of my way to mention my husband. (Based on a long ago personal experience, I totally understand how a woman could be put off by some strange lady putting her man in guard, and I like to alleviate any worry in that department). <br /><br />I have not had many occasions to write anything sour or angry about a classmate, but many opportunities to write glowing praise. Georgette would be a good person to consult about this, as she does used her real name. In any event, thank you for yet another funny and clever post. Your voice is hilarious.Deborah Clemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14604981032804601694noreply@blogger.com